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October 24th

Dear readers of Sander’s blog,

My beautiful, strong Sander is no more. Things moved quickly the last two weeks. He tried everything within his power to delay the inevitable, going as far as to receive further radiation treatment last week. Just as soon as the leg would start to shrink, then…
We waited for Sander to find peace. Late Wednesday afternoon, Sander indicated that he was ready to go. He truly pulled every last bit of enjoyment out of life, in any way possible. What a fighter, what an optimist, what a sweetheart for us all.
Sander was completely lucid when he made the decision, despite the morphine.
The farewell was warm and impressive. We were all there: Thomas and Seona, Erik and Inge, Niels and myself. After the first injection of dormicum (sleeping drug), Sander immediately fell into a deep sleep. Thursday night, around 6:30PM, he drifted away for good.
We don’t quite know how things are supposed to go without Sander. We do know, however, that we have a treasure trove of memories and that he will always be with us. We were together almost fourty years.

I want to thank all blog readers for their support and reactions. We know that many empathised, as Sander did with his peers.


6 comments to October 24th

  • I have been out of communication and did not know of Sander’s departure until recently. I know how hard this must be for all his family and his wide network of friends, so I send you all my deepest condolences for this huge gap in your life. I am richer for knowing him, albeit just as a blog acquaintance, and I hope that he found Doris waiting as he stepped over the threshold to the Other Side. And I intend that you especially, Els, are receiving assurances and signs of his never-ending love for you to console you, for the highest and best good of all concerned.

  • Judy Burns

    Dear Els, Like Karen said, there are no words…. We have never met Els but it was not hard to see how much he loved you and his boys. Hugs to all of you and thank you for letting us know….


  • Thank you for sharing his last wishes. He was well loved by people he’d never met from all over the world. His essential goodness showed through his writing on this blog. I am proud to call him a friend.

  • Justine

    Thankyou for sharing what must be so painful for you, but I have to say, I hope when it’s my time it’s as peaceful as Sanders xx

  • dear Els,

    I so wish there was something I could do or say to help at this painfully difficult time, but I know there are no words…so I will just send you my love and lots of gentle hugs.

    my sincere sympathy to you and your family,


  • stephen

    He was great!

    I am so sorry, Els.

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